Fall River area coaches pass lessons on to their own children

Father’s Day is a special occasion for many Fall River area dads to reflect on their accomplishments in life, especially the local coaches who have children of their own on their teams.

Westport head coach Scot Boudria said basketball is a tool in his family that teaches life lessons.

“My kids know that,” Boudria said. “One of the things we don’t do is take him home. If it’s a bad game, it’s done and we don’t talk about it afterwards. This is our rule. We will talk about it a day later.

Boudria, who completed her 16th year at Westport and coached 11 more years previously at Dartmouth, recently guided the Wildcats to a Mayflower Athletic Conference championship.

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His sons – sophomore Benjamin Boudria and eighth-grader Owen Boudria – were in the field for the time being.

“It’s definitely special,” said Scot Boudria, whose team finished 10-2 this winter. “There are a lot of positives and negatives. It’s interesting.”

So what’s it like to train your sons on the team?

Westport head coach Scot Boudria chats with his team before facing West Bridgewater in the MAC Championship game.  The Wildcats won 70-52.

“One of the things I’ve tried to do is talk to my captains and assistant coaches a lot,” he said. “I ask them ‘Am I being too hard on my sons?’ I let my JV coaches do a lot of coaching on my kids so I didn’t have to be so involved.

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Boudria spoke to former Dartmouth head coach Steve Gasper when he first had children.

One of the things that Gasper reminded Boudria of was not to train her children too much.

“He said, ‘Don’t make the mistakes that I made’ and I said ‘What do you mean? “” Boudria asked.

Gasper told him that he had trained his own children too much.

Boudria said Gasper told her you wanted to train your son to be like everyone else on the team.

Westport's Ben Boudria, right, walks over to the basket.

“It’s really hard because you’re either giving them too much or you’re being too hard on them,” he said. “I try not to talk to my kids too much. I let the other coaches do it and I will coach the others instead.

Boudria said there were special times with her children in the field and lessons to be passed on.

“The good thing is, it’s special because you see them grow up and watch them fail and succeed,” he said. “That’s life. Your kids are going to fail in life and they are going to be successful in life. If you’re there to see it all, that’s what makes it special, to help them with what you can do.

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The lessons of life are learned by baseball within the home of Dennis Almeida.

Longtime baseball mentor Somerset Berkley coached two of his boys, Brandon and Matthew, while donning the Raiders’ uniform.

Brandon graduated last year and is now a freshman at Westfield State. Brandon missed his senior season because of COVID-19.

“I was devastated last year,” Almeida said. “For him and for me.”

Matthew is currently a junior on the varsity team.

Somerset Berkley Baseball Head Coach Dennis Almeida talks to his team before their at bat.

Almeida has always heard the expression that he is a coach father or the coach father of this child.

“I always turn it over and tell people I’m a coach who’s had kids,” he said. “I was a coach before I had kids and I will also be training when they are away from home. “

Almeida said he missed watching his children grow up because he was either on the pitches or at a tournament.

“It was special to spend this time with them,” said Almeida. “Being able to train my kids was good because I was killing two birds with one stone. I was still doing my passion and my training, but still spending time with my family. Catch up.

Alemida's oldest son, Brandon, at a high school game in Somerset Berkley.

Like Boudria, Almeida said his goal as a coach is never to put pressure on them.

“I try to [be] balanced, ”he said. “I never put pressure on them to be the best player there. Obviously being the best you can be, but it was never like living in my shadow or because you’re the coach’s child you’re supposed to do everything right. I probably put them on the bench more than I should have just to prove to people that there is no favoritism and that whatever they get is going to be won.

“So I did the opposite of this stereotype of the father who favors his child. I think I was hard on them to win their playing time, but I was not hard on them like putting pressure on them. My children are both realistic. There would be no special treatment because I was their coach.

Almeida has always made sure that he is first a father and then a coach on and off the pitch.

“I think what I’m most proud of is that my two boys were solid players,” he said. “More important to me, they were two of the best teammates on their teams and two of the best kids in sportsmanship and very selfless. They always put other players in front of them.

Almeida's youngest son Matthew is at bat this season.

Almeida said what was on his Father’s Day wishlist was to win a tournament game against Sharon, which he did by a score of 8-5. It’s also her birthday on Friday.

“I’m proud at the end of the day that I’ve taught my kids life lessons rather than leading the league hitting, having the most homers or hitting everyone,” said Almeida. “It was all about life lessons. My two children now lead this life professionally and personally. They are selfless and are always looking to help someone. Baseball has made better human beings and better men of my children.

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